Thursday, June 25, 2009

HAPPY 5TH BIRTHDAY, JOSHUA!!

Today is my youngest son's 5th birthday. He is growing up so fast. It seems like just yesterday I was waiting to meet him. Has it really been 5 years since he was born with his cord wrapped around his neck twice? It seems like only a moment has passed since he was whisked away to the nursery because he had turned blue. It blows my mind that it has been 5 years.

He was up early, excited to see his presents in my room. He climbed into bed with me for his morning snuggle and, thankfully, fell asleep for a while longer. When he woke up again he wasn't going to wait any longer to open his gifts. He played with his new toys all day long, especially the Mack Hauler (from the movie Cars) with Lightening McQueen.

This weekend we are taking a trip to Moody Gardens in Galveston to celebrate Joshua's birthday. Because we have just moved again and he doesn't have any friends here we needed a special way to celebrate. Moody Gardens has a wonderful aquarium and Joshua just loves "swimmies." I really like taking the boys to a special place for their birthdays instead of buying big, expensive gifts. I think the memories of fun times together will be remembered long after the latest and greatest toy has been thrown away and forgotten.

Joshua has told me that since he is 5 he won't suck on his fingers anymore. I will be very happy if this is the case but I am not holding my breath. He has sucked on the middle two fingers of his right hand since birth and I am not optimistic that he will be able to give it up cold turkey. I did tell him I was proud of him for making this decision. I certainly won't let him think that I think he won't give up his finger-sucking so easily.

I am so thankful that God has given me the precious gift of Joshua. I am thankful for all three of the gifts which God has given to me. There are days when I have to remind myself that they are gifts and not chores, especially when they "want" this and "need" that every 10 minutes. I love my children very, very much. I feel guilty when I feel frustrated, tired or unhappy with my boys; but I know most moms have similar feelings. I take some quiet time to pray and God gently reminds me that it is OK. The boys are hard work and I am only human with human feelings. I have to remember to trust in God and lean on Him. With His strength, ALL things are possible.

Happy Birthday, my precious Joshua!!

Saturday, June 13, 2009

Anniversary Trip?

I tend to have better "Mommy Moments" when I have had some time to relax and unwind without my boys. Don't get me wrong - I love them dearly. However, I need time away from them and I believe they need some time away from me. Right now most of my away time consists of short shopping trips and the occasional family trip with my parents (football games, my cousin's wedding last September). Chris and I are trying to change this but it is hard to do.

This year Chris and I will celebrate our 10th anniversary. For the past couple years we have been dreaming of a trip to Hawaii. When we moved to Portland last year we thought our dream vacation was within reach. There are a few airlines with direct flights to Maui, our Hawaiian destination of choice. Most were relatively inexpensive, which would make for a relatively inexpensive trip. Remember: Relatively inexpensive - not inexpensive!! Well, I guess it wasn't meant to be. Our dream of a trip to Hawaii was pushed aside when Chris was laid off in January. We held on to our dream trip until Chris could not find work for 3 months. We visited the trip again, recently, only to discover it is more expensive when flying from Texas. Ah, maybe another time.

Chris and I would like to go somewhere nice - and new - for our anniversary. We have found several trips that are within our reach but probably not in time for our anniversary. We don't use credit cards so we have to have the money up front. It isn't hard to save but it takes a while. So I have put out a plea for frequent flier miles, just to see if anyone can help us.

I would really like to go on a relaxing trip with Chris, especially in August before we start school. I love homeschooling my boys and truly believe it is the way God wants for our children to be educated but it is hard work and draining. A nice trip would help me get revved up for the year. Too bad homeschoolers don't get any kind of education credit. I'm sure a pre-school year trip would count, really!!

I'll keep you updated on our plans. We may have to tone down our plans or put them off for a few months. That's OK. It is not the date that is important but the vows we made on that date. We should celebrate each other and our vows every day, although we don't. We should be excited that, with God's help and strength, we have made it for 10 years. Marriage is very hard work and we are doing it; some days better than others.

I know that a trip for Chris and me would make us better parents - and better spouses. I know the time away from us would be very good for the boys. They need some snuggle and spoil time with the grandparents. We all need a break from the stress of the year.

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

I Didn't Really...

I didn't really...

  • let my kids wear pajamas all day!
  • buy Hotel for Dogs through On Demand to keep Joshua occupied while I worked on the house and then watch most of the movie with him!
  • step over the puddle of water coming from under the washing machine more than once!
  • waste time at Target tonight (not me, never)!
  • keep the channel on iCarly...and watch the show...when the boys left the room!
  • let my kids have candy before bed!
In case you haven't guessed, I REALLY did do all of those things above. Some days are better than others in our house.

Zachary has discovered "popular" music. I blame it on the Kidz Bop cds from McDonald's. I don't mind the clean version of the popular songs found on those cds, but the Youtube versions aren't so nice. Zachary has discovered how to find songs on Youtube and he will listen to them while he makes Pokemon fusions. He doesn't watch the videos but just listens to the music. I have to be careful to listen to what he decides to play. Some of the songs are Ok, some are not. Then there are times like today where he asks me to listen to a new song - and I wish I could have that 4 minutes of my life back. Zachary and I don't always agree on music. As long as it is clean and I don't have to hear it, then it is OK. I just didn't think I would have to worry about his music choices at 8.

Our house has a problem. We thought it was the washing machine's problem but it seems to be a problem with the house. Water has been pooling around the washing machine when I would do the wash. Chris pulled it out and tightened the connections. I tried it again yesterday but stopped washing when I noticed the water again. I haven't washed since yesterday but there is still water coming from under the machine. Tonight Chris pointed out a puddle in the garage. Great. He has a note in to the landlord to see what we need to do. I am hopeful for a quick, easy fix but nothing in the Parrott household seems to work that way.

Saturday, June 6, 2009

Movies

We went to the movie "theatern" today to see Pixar's Up. It was a good movie but probably geared toward the older two. Joshua told me on more than one occasion that he was "freaked out" and climbed into my lap. It was a good movie for grown-ups, as well. Chris seemed to like the film and if I cry in a movie, then it is definitely a winner. The "short" before the feature was OK but I wasn't as impressed as I have been with past Pixar shorts. The kids thought it was hilarious and that is what matters to me.

After the movie we went to Costco. ALL of us went to Costco. I really like to do my shopping by myself but Chris wanted to go so he could sample the goodies. I was pleasantly surprised at the behavior of the boys. Usually they run wild. I guess there is something about the wide aisles, the tall ceilings and the concrete floor that makes them go nuts and lose their ability to listen. Today they did very well. I didn't even get any, "Please, pleeeeeaaaasseeee, can I have that?" or any random items thrown into the cart. They didn't get upset when they asked for something and I said no, either. I guess they are growing up!!

I feel bad for my boys tonight. They are covered in mosquito bites. Why I didn't have any repellent on hand before tonight I'll never know. I guess I just repressed the memory of mosqitoes being most prominent flying animal out this time of year in Texas. I don't remember having been bitten by any mosquitoes in Oregon but in the past two weeks I feel like I have been one walking mosquito chew toy. The boys will still play outside but they are miserable afterwards. I did buy repellent and some anti-itch medicine tonight. Bad, forgetful Mommy!

My wonderful husband made dinner tonight. He grilled steak and corn on the cob. He fixed baked potatoes. Yum. Chris loves to grill and I certainly don't mind eating what he prepares. I think meat always tastes better grilled. My Dad grilled a lot when I was growing up so I know that is why I like grilled food so much. While Chris is a very good griller, I still think my Dad is the "Grill Master."

Mama needs to go to bed. We are meeting my parents and sister for brunch tomorrow morning across town. I am hoping to get a little more unpacking done...no, I'm not done yet...and maybe some laundry. However, the laundry is dependent on whether or not the washing machine will cooperate. It has been leaking water. I am hopeful it is because it is not level and that fixing the short "foot" will fix the problem. If not, I guess I'll find a nice river with some rocks.

My verse for the day: Jeremiah 29:11

Friday, June 5, 2009

Two in a Row

No one pass out now because I am posting two days in a row. LOL It was such a not-so-rotten day today. Actually, it was pretty good. Chris worked from home this morning so I could rest. I have been feeling kind of queasy in the tummy for a few days so the extra rest was very welcome. I got a couple more boxes unpacked and some more stuff put away. I took a shower, which on some days is about the ONLY thing I feel I get done! I made dinner and NOBODY complained about what I made. WOW!

Chris was so nice today. I was a little frustrated this evening, though. He usually leaves the office by 6 and is home by 6:30 so I try to have dinner done before then. Well, dinner was done at 6:30 but Chris was not home. The boys and I went ahead and ate because they were hungry and I didn't want them to eat anything else. He came home around 7, carrying flowers and propane. He had gone to the store because he wanted to surprise me with steak for dinner. He bought everything for a nice dinner, including Blue Bell and wine. How very thoughtful. Oh, and he brought good news, too. We got our moving expense reimbursement today. Now our pennies are quite so tight.

Today was a difficult day for Zachary. I am not sure why but it could have to do with the state of our house and our lives. He was definitely out of sorts - lots of drama, lower than normal frustration level and several outbursts. I feel inadequate as a parent when he has these days. I am using what I have learned from his various therapists to help him through these days, although it is more challenging when I don't feel well. I also do a LOT more praying. I try to keep the day going as it should as best as I can. I try to "love" him through the hard times. Now, sometimes it is willful disobedience. Other times, it is sensory overload. Somedays I can't tell the difference and end up kicking myself because I got angry when I shouldn't have. Thank God - literally - for grace, mercy and forgiveness.

I am starting to get ideas about our school for the fall. This is the first year that I will have 2 all day long. I am a little nervous. I am trying to figure out how to manage school time better. I am looking into unit studies. Ryan and Zachary read on the same level so I shouldn't have any problem there. Ryan hasn't started basic grammar yet and doesn't pick up math as easily as his brother. I figure I can have Zachary work on reading or math while I teach Ryan math skills and then have Ryan read or work on science while I teach Zachary new language arts/grammar skills. I think unit studies might work better across mulitple grade levels. I'll have to see...

I would like to put Joshua in a half-day or half-week kindergarten program at a church, much like Ryan's program in Oregon. I think he needs it for social growth, especially with Zachary being his older brother. Ryan grew by leaps and bounds and I think Joshua will, too. It is hard to find opportunities for learning and social skills for younger homeschoolers and I want a little more than play-dates. I have a few churches in mind and will start calling them in the next few weeks.

We are fast approaching the first birthday since our move...Joshua's. Once again we are in a new place where he doesn't have any friends. I don't think he has had a birthday party of his peers ever! We have decided to make it special by taking him somewhere he would like to go. His choice? The aquarium. I am not sure if we will go to the Dallas Aquarium or drive to Galveston and go to Moody Gardens. To make it extra special I am going to get in touch with the parents of Joshua's friends in Oregon and ask for them to send Joshua a note for his birthday. I know he misses his friends.

I guess I should go downstairs and help Chris figure out why the washing machine has decided to put the water on the floor instead of in the wash tub. I discovered this bit of goodness today while I was moving the laundry into the dryer. Ugh. This was also about the same time our cable started going wacky. However, the cable righted itself. I didn't really care about the cable and don't really care if we have it or not but it does help me to get things done. The boys love The Discovery Channel, Animal Planet and National Geographic. I can usually find something on those channels that is educational and interesting. If it is a really good show it will have a creepy animal or something gross, too.

Until later...God is good ALL THE TIME!!

Thursday, June 4, 2009

In Texas...Finally

Wow! I apologize for not writing sooner, even just to say that we are still alive. The past month has been so busy. It has been equal parts happiness, sadness and frustration. I'll catch you up the best I can.

The last couple weeks of school for Ryan and Joshua were quite busy. There were special events and field trips. In one week I attended Ryan's graduation, a field trip to The Children's Museum and the zoo. It was a fun time but now I remember yet another reason I like homeschooling so much - the busy-ness can be spread out!

It was hard to watch Ryan and his friends during his last week of school. I was fortunate that they were able to stay and play after school almost every day and he even worked in a couple of playdates. It broke my heart to hear him say that he was sad to move because he would miss his friends. Thank goodness for e-mail so they can stay in touch.

The actual move was a DISASTER. I won't go in to all of the details now because thinking about it still makes me angry, but let's just say that our full pack and move turned into a "Chris and Heather pack until 4:30 am the night before the truck comes" pack and move. We didn't even know until the day the driver arrived that we had a driver after what happened earlier in the week. Let's just say that the company with which we moved will not get our business in the future...and they are having a special meeting about our move, in particular. The only real bright spot in the actual move part was our driver. He was awesome, a true answer to prayer and a Christian. God is good.

I have definitely made some Mama faux-pas during this process. It was no secret to my husband, my friends and everyone else who came into contact with me that I was not excited about the move. Yes, my family is in Texas. No, I don't particularly want to live in Texas. Well, I guess I said it one to many times in front of Ryan, who *had* been excited about the move. We were at the zoo and a classmate's parent asked if I was exicted. Ryan said, "Yes" while at the same time I said, "No." Then he got a sad look on his face. I asked if he was excited and he said, "not anymore." Ouch!! On the way home from the zoo I told him that Mommy was not excited we had to leave our friends but was excited about the new friends we would make in Texas and the new adventures we would have as a family. I told him it was OK to be excited. I also apologized for not being excited and taking away his excitement.

So, just to make things clear: I am extremely thankful and happy that my husband has a good job that he likes and enjoys doing every day. I am thankful that the company paid for our move and that we are here, safe and sound, with our belongings. I am thankful and take comfort in knowing that my boys are OK with being here and are looking forward to making new friends and going on new adventures. I like my new house and neighborhood and look forward to making new friends. BUT...I am not thrilled that I had to leave Portland. I am not thrilled that we live in Texas again. If you like Texas, great. It is just too hot and buggy for me (among other things!).

I am in the process of trying to find my house amid the boxes. It is no easy thing to do with three boys who want to help. They get very excited to find their things but quickly lose interest when they realize they have to put their things away. They would much rather collect the empty boxes and make neighborhoods in the kitchen. My mom came over today to help me unpack and find some more living space. I was looking forward to her coming because I wanted her to help me put my glassware back into the china cabinet. The cabinet and much of what is in it came from her mother. Well, she did help me unpack a few boxes and get things straightened but not the cabinet. The movers (grrr!) who took out the glass shelves also took out the clips that held the shelves into the sides of the cabinet. We found the shelves but did not find the clips. It was OK, though, because we had fun anyway.

I think that is all for now. I'd love to write more but I have been having nausea lately. Nothing else, just that yucky-gross feeling like I am going to lose my lunch. I will do better about writing more. I have so much more to tell you, too. Here are a few teasers: 2 blown tires during our move, 2000 miles with 3 boys and a van full of stuff, the boys' first trip to the water park.

Until next time know that God is good ALL THE TIME. The Parrott family is proof positive.